True.
But what about labels and the associations?
In the past I have identified myself as a WoPA: Wife of Porn Addict.
Today I choose to identify myself as a Warrior Sister.
Now, please don't think I'm judging anyone here. I love my WoPA sisters.
Here's the thing.
Not everyone is a WoPA. Not everyone is married. Not everyone married is married to an addict- or maybe it's not an addiction to pornography. I also feel a need to define myself AS MYSELF not in relation to anyone else. (I realize "sister" is a relational term...stay with me here.)
I want to define myself for who I am. So who am I? Am I the wife of a porn addict? Yes. But my husband is so much more than just an addict. He's a complex human being. He's also learning how to be healthy. As am I. I think the label Porn Addict is harsh. Negative connotation. I get the negative emotions associated. For now- it's an easy label. But that's all about HIM. What about Bob Me?
I am a complex human being too. I think we all are.
Warrior= one who fights valiantly. What am I fighting? For my marriage. For my health. For the health of my family. For hope. For a brighter, healthier, richer future.
Sister= a member of a sisterhood, which to say is an organization of women with a common interest (see warrior).
I am a woman fighting for myself and others to be healthy and happy.
This has always been a part of me.
I'm glad I found it again.
So if you read old posts- that's where I was then in the journey. This is where I am now.
And I am blessed beyond words for my sisters no matter what names they choose. Blood and otherwise.
