Roses

A rose by any other name would smell just as sweet.

True.

But what about labels and the associations?

In the past I have identified myself as a WoPA: Wife of Porn Addict. 

Today I choose to identify myself as a Warrior Sister. 

Now, please don't think I'm judging anyone here.  I love my WoPA sisters.  

Here's the thing. 

Not everyone is a WoPA.  Not everyone is married.  Not everyone married is married to an addict- or maybe it's not an addiction to pornography.  I also feel a need to define myself AS MYSELF not in relation to anyone else.  (I realize "sister" is a relational term...stay with me here.)  

I want to define myself for who I am.  So who am I?  Am I the wife of a porn addict? Yes.  But my husband is so much more than just an addict.  He's a complex human being.  He's also learning how to be healthy. As am I.  I think the label Porn Addict is harsh.  Negative connotation.  I get the negative emotions associated. For now- it's an easy label.  But that's all about HIM.  What about Bob Me? 

I am a complex human being too.  I think we all are. 

Warrior= one who fights valiantly.  What am I fighting?  For my marriage.  For my health.  For the health of my family.  For hope.  For a brighter, healthier, richer future.  

Sister= a member of a sisterhood, which to say is an organization of women with a common interest (see warrior).  

I am a woman fighting for myself and others to be healthy and happy.  

This has always been a part of me.  

I'm glad I found it again.  

So if you read old posts- that's where I was then in the journey.  This is where I am now.  

And I am blessed beyond words for my sisters no matter what names they choose.  Blood and otherwise.